wish people would grow up

Category: the Rant Board

Post 1 by SuperKrista (1) on Saturday, 12-Dec-2009 20:35:31

I just wish some people on the zone would grow up. We have 18 year old people who think they are better than every body. No body's perfect so grow up. We have 22 year old people who think threatening young kids is cool. We also have the same age people that thank say you are going to kill yourself is cool. If you did that who would you be and where would you be. So try to grow up. And remember non one is perfect.
Frome
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Post 2 by SunshineAndRain (I'm happily married, a mom of two and a fulltime college student.) on Saturday, 12-Dec-2009 22:00:54

I myself don't notice anything threatening but then again,I'm not onetoparticipate inpublic QN'S much either. The thing that irks me is the immaturity and outright lack of common sense that's spreading like wild fire through every social network everywhere. I'm sure it's not just on the Zone.

Post 3 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Sunday, 13-Dec-2009 3:35:24

ah no, it's everywhere ya go. It's what happens in large communities, but there's the ignore feature and heaps of other lovely people to chat too.

Post 4 by Senior (I've now got the bronze prolific poster award! now going for the silver award!) on Sunday, 13-Dec-2009 15:32:34

Rdfreak - that isn't true in my experience. I have not seen sighted or visually impaired people online or offline being like some people are on the zone.

Post 5 by Blue Velvet (I've got the platinum golden silver bronze poster award.) on Sunday, 13-Dec-2009 16:27:13

It's been my experience that people use the computer as a shield. They feel they can say anything to anyone because that person isn't right there in the same room and can't physically harm them. Plus, if they say something really mean and the person tries to "talk" back, they can just put them on ignore or log off of that particular site for the time being. It's not quite as easy to get away with nasty behavior in person. Of course there are exceptions...there are people who are nice to others both online and in person as well as people who are nasty to everyone.

Post 6 by Miss M (move over school!) on Sunday, 13-Dec-2009 18:50:18

Welcome to the internet. People are socially awkward here. Please see the "ignore" feature and learn to smile more. If you get offended, you're just as bad off as the person working overly hard to offend you.

Post 7 by SilverLightning (I've now got the silver prolific poster award! wahoo!) on Sunday, 13-Dec-2009 23:55:19

and then you have those really annoying people who sit back and point the finger at everyone whose behavior does not fit into their own personal mold of what is right and wrong. the people who sit and bitch about everything everyone else does, and yet doesn't realize how judgemental and annoying they're being while doing it. the self-appointed behavior nazi twats who think that they've earned some god given right to condemn the way other people are acting or behaving, and say that they are nasty or mean, simply because they don't agree with it. when in actuality, they are doing the exact same things by using dorogatory adjectives to describe the actions and behaviors of others. those people are really annoying, and its even more annoying when they make boards like this to do it in public forums.

Post 8 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Monday, 14-Dec-2009 0:02:35

Senior, are you serious? there's good and bad in every community; on and off line, and that is all I was saying.

Post 9 by KC8PNL (The best criticism of the bad is the practice of the better.) on Monday, 14-Dec-2009 1:23:24

Senior: we get it. Anything that doesn't conform to your standards developed over a very limited amount of real world time working with a small organization will be something you are against. But until you no loger live a sheltered life, you won't experience any of the things you see here. Like it or not, the Zone somewhat resembles a microcosm of the world around us. People do things that offend each other in work situations, on the street, and just about anywhere else. I agree with Miss M and the entire train of thaught expressed in posts like it. It's just the way things are, and you should learn how to appropriately handle it. If it means ignoring people than do that, but if it's complaining you do, expect to be shot down. Over idealization and self important douchiness make me sick. Finally, yes, people, myself included, are more harsh online. It's the nature of the beast. The only thing you can do to combat things you don't agree with is to show it in your actions. Wining will never get you anywhere near where you want to be fast.

Post 10 by tear drop (No longer looking for a prince, merely a pauper with potential!!!!!) on Monday, 14-Dec-2009 1:29:30

welcome to real life.

Post 11 by rdfreak (THE ONE AND ONLY TRUE-BLUE KANGA-KICKIN AUSIE) on Monday, 14-Dec-2009 6:21:31

I am nme online; that is, what you see is who I am in the physical world. I don't believe I am any more aggressive, but over the years, I've had to learn to toughen up a bit because of some people who like to act different online and hurt me.

Post 12 by laced-unlaced (Account disabled) on Monday, 14-Dec-2009 10:08:15

scott,

you make a good point.

i myself think there are 3 diffrent types of users, really.

you have the ones that are never happy with anything and are always complaining.

you have the ones that sit back and get on with what ever they are doing

and then you have the users that like to think they are older than they actually are, and encourage everyone to do the same. that, in my view is how we get most of the drama on here.

Post 13 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Monday, 19-Apr-2010 12:14:33

You've never seen anything like this on a social network besides the zone? Go and have a look at some of the comments to youtube videos, or some of the things people say on MySpace and Facebook, and then come back and see if you can still say that. Like anything else, you either respond to it, or ignore it, whatever the situation requires. Online and offline, you have your friends, the people you just don't talk to, and those you avoid. It's no different than anywhere else.

Post 14 by margorp (I've got the gold prolific poster award, now is there a gold cup for me?) on Tuesday, 20-Apr-2010 15:11:43

But it happens off the web as well. It is what I like to call, the real world. It sucks but it won't change.

Post 15 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Wednesday, 21-Apr-2010 9:48:00

Exactly. I was responding to the comment that this was a so-called "zone" thing. It's just how some people are. Just let it help you learn to better appreciate those who are good to you.

Post 16 by margorp (I've got the gold prolific poster award, now is there a gold cup for me?) on Thursday, 22-Apr-2010 15:24:28

It makes me think that perhaps we should start measuring mental age rather than chronological age.

Post 17 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Thursday, 22-Apr-2010 17:20:54

I totally agree. The only problem with that is that mental age is usually measured by a test, which results in numbers. Why does everything have to be about numbers? Anyway, I digress.

Post 18 by margorp (I've got the gold prolific poster award, now is there a gold cup for me?) on Thursday, 22-Apr-2010 18:53:19

I guess numbers keep us sane and focus. They give us answers.

Post 19 by LeoGuardian (You mean there is something outside of this room with my computer in it?) on Thursday, 22-Apr-2010 20:47:31

Hmm I've been on the Zone for almost a year now. Yes there's drama but ... let's see ...
There's drama in real life, on Facebook, and even there was a ton of it in the nineties on usenet groups everything from rec.pets.birds to rec.arts.bodyart and probably anywhere else. Some of what they do on here as drama we used to call trolling or being a troll on Usenet, basically someone posts something to get attention or, more likely, to sit back and watch the reaction, and a bunch of people respond.
Troll come from the trolling lines for fishing you drag behind a boat, hooking as many fish as you can.
Yes people can be harsher or more abrupt online, either for the shield thing or because they just write abrupt. The Zone has been different, for me, and it can be hard to tell what age some people are, but nobody asks, and I usually don't care anyway.
And what is grow up anyway? As long as you're a decent, tax-paying citizen and take care of your responsibilities, nobody cares.
It does seem there's quite a few on here as like a good time, which is one reason I've stuck around.

Post 20 by GreenTurtle (Music is life. Love. Vitality.) on Thursday, 22-Apr-2010 21:47:11

I wasn't aware of that usenet stuff, at first when you said trolling I thought that you were comparing an attention-seeking person's intelligence to that of a big, stupid smelly troll, lol.

Post 21 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Friday, 23-Apr-2010 8:35:14

I guess we're all a little different online than we are in person. For example, if someone says to you: "I'm going to come over there and kick your ass!", well, realistically, unless the person lives in your area, which is usually not the case online, who's going to buy a plane ticket or drive hours on end just so they can kick your ass? Nobody I know, but if someone said that to me in person, I might take it a little more seriously.

Post 22 by margorp (I've got the gold prolific poster award, now is there a gold cup for me?) on Friday, 23-Apr-2010 14:48:30

interesting. I seem to be more up-beat online. Oh no, the "experts" might say I have some sort of disassociative disorder. Oh no oh no!

Post 23 by OceanDream (An Ocean of Thoughts) on Monday, 26-Apr-2010 10:27:33

True, the worst thing you really have to worry about online is getting a virus, which is a lot less likely if you have the appropriate software, so naturally, most people probably don't take it as seriously as in person, where you have your own life to think about. Imagine that. A life to think about? And offline? What a concept.

Post 24 by margorp (I've got the gold prolific poster award, now is there a gold cup for me?) on Tuesday, 27-Apr-2010 14:04:33

Oh my. To suggest that we have lives off-line is...mind boggling!